Delayed Ejaculation - An Introduction

Causes Of Men's Difficulty Reaching Climax

Some men who experience delayed ejaculation (DE) want a simple physical explanation for the problem, like an insensitive penis, or an ejaculation reflex which requires more stimulation than normal before it triggers their orgasm.

The truth is – there's no evidence whatsoever for a physical explanation for this condition. Now, I do agree that some studies on animals appear to demonstrate that the time between penetration and ejaculation (intravaginal ejaculatory latency time) is related to serotonin levels in the brain.

This is a chemical which controls mood, although it's not entirely clear whether high and low serotonin levels are the cause or effect of depressed and joyous feelings.

And even if you could identify an association between low serotonin levels and delayed ejaculation, that's no proof that low serotonin causes retarded ejaculation.

In any event, it's not a helpful piece of information because there's no way you can alter serotonin levels in the brain to control ejaculation. So the only thing that you can realistically do to control retarded ejaculation is to deal with any possible emotional or psychological causes of the condition.

And the strange thing is, when you start looking for the characteristics of men who have delayed ejaculation, you tend to find they have the same things in common. Surprise, surprise….

Now don't take any of this personally! These observations are from the whole male population and they may or may not be relevant to you….

...but what I've found is that men with delayed ejaculation tend to be quite focused on what they're doing, perhaps a little bit blinkered, maybe even rigid in their outlook, and certainly set high standards which they have difficulty achieving.

One way this can play out during sex is that a man might feel he absolutely has to give his partner an orgasm, or that he's responsible for her pleasure, but he also feels little bit of resentment or even anger about this, and so he doesn't perhaps enjoy sex as much as he might do.

There is a whole load of reasons why this can be the case, including things as varied as

  • a strict upbringing in which sex was somehow regarded as a taboo, disgusting or shameful subject
  • unhealthy relationships between the child and his parents, relationships that involved abuse of one kind or another
  • emotional conflict about sex or women or relationships
  • and in particular, not quite knowing how to "be" with women in an intimate relationship.

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Introduction - Part 3


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If you've been searching for a solution for retarded ejaculation, this probably surprises you. After all, retarded ejaculation, also known as delayed ejaculation, isn't really talked about very much. I think that's because it seems like such an embarrassing problem.

While premature ejaculation is a bit of a joke culturally, you're quite likely to get the sympathy of other men: it's something every man understands.

Tell a man about delayed ejaculation, however, and it's a completely different ballgame: some men won't know what the heck you're talking about; others will comment how fantastic it sounds be able to thrust for - well, how long? - without coming.

The truth is, as those of us who've worked in this field know, delayed ejaculation is actually a pain in the butt. A real pain in the butt.

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  • relaxation exercises
  • techniques to increase intimacy between you and your partner
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  • techniques to shift the focus of sexual arousal from fantasy to physical arousal in the body
  • ways to get turned on by your partner more easily
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  • and ways to find real pleasure in sexually fulfilling your partner without resenting it.


Updated August 12, 2016